Consent Dance Party
Workshops and banners are important, but when the sun goes down, consent needs to stay awake and out of bed. That is, when we embed consent into the college hookup culture, if it comes time for the bed, consent is already bedrock.
Our idea is to bring consent to the center of hookup culture: parties. Namely, dance parties.
So, here is a dance party theme that will get peeps to your party and consent on your campus. Host a themed consent party! The theme can be anything, like 80′s themed (a personal favorite). But the premise is all about consent. Here’s how to host:
Consent Party Action Plan
Get some people together who are jazzed about consent, and set a date and theme. Do some outreach: create a Facebook event, put up fliers (feel free to use the flier TCP made!) a week before the event, and spread the word through the grape vine. You know, the typical party 101 stuff. But, we’ve got some twists. Have an MC, a door check, and any other duties you think should be filled out at your party.
At the entrance to the party post a sign that says
“READ BEFORE ENTERING
TO ENSURE THE MOST FANTABULOUS OF TIMES WE HAVE DEDICATED THIS PARTY TO BE A STRICTLY CONSENSUAL EVENT. DANCE WILL BE THE RIDE AND CONSENT WILL BE VIBE. ASK BEFORE YOU DANCE, ASK HOW YOU WANT TO TOUCH. SIMPLE ENOUGH.
THE BETTER YOU KNOW HOW TO ASK, THE BETTER YOUR MOVES.
NOW SHOW US YOUR MOVES!”
The door person will be responsible for reading this aloud to all who enter and being there to ask in case somebody has a question.
The MC will ask the audience at the peak of the party what some of the best consensual moves have been. Namely, what were the best questions. (ex. “Would you like it if I put my hand up on your hip, so when you dip I dip, we dip?”) That way, we can all share how we spit our consensual game. At the very least, strive to have everyone ask for a dance. Ideally, everyone will be asking how their dance partner(s) like to dance.
Furthermore, if you’re looking for some music for the party, check out our Consensual Mixtape!
Here are some suggestions we have:
- Make it a sober space, i.e. don’t serve booze
- Don’t make the party too dark
- Don’t make the music too loud
- Make sure the hosts are sober
- Help folks get home, if needed
- Keep a lookout for aggressive behavior
- Celebrate your awesome party with another party. Hey, why not?